LQ

Are you in-love? Of course, you do. Kahit naman parents mo lng pwede mo nang masabi na in-love ka, but I’m referring to the love of one person to the opposite sex….yessss! Ayos…ang gandang topic nito, kc love…..

Generally speaking, if we we’re to talk about love, daming gustong isambulat ng mind mo eh no? But my post for today is about lover’s quarrel, misunderstanding, lover’s war, tampuhan or whatever na terminology meron yan..ok? gets mo na, cge umpisahan ko na..

There are lots of factors why many of us experience the so-called “quarrel”--based from my own experiences..hehe. Here’s some and I’ll tell you why….

1. Selos- ito ang unang-una eh, bwisit kc tong selos na to lagi na lng pahamak sa lahat, d b? May mkasama ka lng na guy or girl tapos nakita ka ng gf or bf mo, d na agad iimik o kaya naman biglang magwo-walk-out, ano b? Grabe, o natamaan k b? Makita ka lng na nakikipa-ngitian sa iba, selos na agad.

As I promised, I’ll tell you why, kasi po ang selos sa ibang girl or guys it’s a way of expressing na he loves you tlaga, kc minsan mas masama naman pag ndi ka nagselos d, b? Second, jealousy is a sign of premature relationship, ksi madalas ang relationship na puno pa ng selos is yung bago pa lng, d pa kc masyado kilala ng bawat isa ang kanilang partner. Third, jealousy is sometimes an indication of what you are doing, example, tamang duda ka jan na may kasamang iba ung gf mo but the truth is, ikaw ang may ibang kasama, tama ba? Fourth, sometimes the distance itself, pag magkalayo kayo parati ng mahal mo, jan pumapasok ang selos (iniisip mo lagi na baka may makilala pa cyang iba, or mabaling sa iba ang feelings nya, na baka ma-develop cya sa iba na mas madalas nyang makasama…yung mga tipong ganun ba! My gosh, eto lng ang solusyon jan eh, always feel him/her na nanjan ka parati sa kanya, kahit d kayo magkalayo, kahit magkatapat lng bahay nyo, paramdam mo lagi sa knya na cya lang love mo, kc d na mahirap I-express feelings natin ngaun dahil may cellphone na, may facebook,friendster….kc dati kailangan mo pa ng kaibigan para cya magsabi sa gf or bf mo na magkita kayo sa ganitong lugar at ganitong oras o kaya naman sa sulat mo sinasabi, eh ngaun instant na lahat…hayyyy…dapat din ipa-feel mo sa mahal mo na youre always there pag may problema sya…iparamdam mo na pag magkasama kayo cya ang pinaka-gwapo at pinaka-maganda sa paningin mo, na wala nang gaganda pa at gugwapo pa sa kanya. Kahit na kamukha ni Aiko Climaco ng ASF dancers ang katabi nyo sa jeep, dedma ka dapat…sa mga boys, pag may nka-mini kayong nakaharap sa jeep, kahit kating-kati ka na, na tignan nasa harap mo, tiisin mo, iiwas mo na tingin mo, isipin mo, pagmumulan na naman yan ng away pag oras lang na tumingin ka sa bwisit na legs na yan…hahahaha! Kaya minsan pag kasama mo gf mo bilang na bilang talaga mga kilos nyo eh, ano?

2. Mis-understanding- eto ung tipong akala mo galit cya tapos akala naman nya di ka namamansin agad..ung mga ganung tipo na bigla na lng di kayo ndi magpapansinan…but again, this is for mga bago pa lng na magka-relasyon. To others naman, it dealt purely in the transformation of expectations and attitude. Minsan kasi akala natin kilalang-kilala mo na ang love mo pero pagdating sa ibang aspects ng buhay kung mag-react sya parang di mo expected, na akala mo marunong cya when it comes to solving problems yun pala madali cyang mag-give-up, na mahina pala sya sa pagsubok, na madali pala cyang masiraan ng loob—in this situation you need to talk talaga or even exchange ideas para ma-exercise yung mind nyo sa mga ups and downs na dumating at darating pa sa buhay nyo. This is also one of the best, magkaron ka ng effort na ipaalam sa kanya na u’d like to know more of his/her friends, ksi sa maniwala ka’t hindi dun mo makikilala ng husto ang mahal mo, kasi kung ano cya sa friends nya masisilat mo ang ugali nya because “a friend is the best mirror”, they will tell you who he/she is….kaya nga minsan ayaw ka nyang ipakilala sa friends nya eh, kasi nga ung mga friends nya alam ang mga past nya…baka mabuko mo pa na pang twenty-one ka na nya…joke……hahahahaha!!!!

3. Financial Circumstances- Ahh, this naman mejo malalim na ito, minsan naman sa sobrang kilalang-kilala na ninyo ang isa’t-isa or let’s just say na-over identified ka na sa kanya, sometimes di na rin maganda kinalalabasan eh, like for example, pati financial nyo napapakialaman na rin. Bkit daw magastos ka masyado, or bakit daw tinitipid mo ang budget for ganito..ganyan…Or sometimes, na-short ka at you have to make hiram muna sa kanya, minsan iba ang dating nun eh, iispin pa nya “Ba’t di ka ba marunong mag-budget?” Like…Hello!!@@#$ Feeling mo tuloy, nina-nag ka na nga ng Nanay mo sa pagba-budget mo eh dadagdag pa itong jowa mo….huhuhu…bwisit na buhay to (masabi-sabi mo cguro!) Minsan naman, dahil sa financial yung mga future plans ninyo, ndi matuloy-tuloy…ang naaantalang bakasyon nio sa palawan na 10 years nyo nang pina-plano….bakit? Kc nga financially unstable pa kayo, eh di pag ganito ang sitwasyon, pareho na rin mainit ulo ninyo, eh d away na naman…..hayyyyyy. Pag naman bago pa lang, ang kadalasang nagiging problema is yung kung cno magti-treat sa date nyo….aminin….o d b? Minsan, pag naman lagi yung guy ang nanlilibre, wag naman sasama loob nyo, eh kung walang atik gf nyo eh, may magagawa ba kyo? Eh libre naman kiss eh…hehehe…Sa mga girls naman wag naman kayo parating pabigat na tipong 2 years na kayong nagpapalibre sa mga papa nyo…wag naman ganun kakapal ha! Dapat give and take..ok? Kunyari ngaun, si papa, next time ikaw naman, para walang away….

4. Friends- Ito ang delikado..wat if d ka feel ng mga friends nya? Don’t tell me you’re not affected ha! Lalo na’t may L.Q. kayo! Kasi ang tendency nito pag ayaw syo ng friends nya pati cya iiwas syo, kaya nga d ba, ang liligawan mo unang-una, friends nya! (Pero minsan, ndi rin eh no?) In most cases ganito, laging kasama friends sa relationship nyo. Tama ba ako? Kaya minsan, eto na naman tayo, sa sobrang dikit mo naman o kaya nya sa mga friends…ayun…minsan sila na rin ang mitsa sa mga pag-aaway nyo…bkit? Eh kasi daw mas marami ka pa daw time sa prends mo kesa sa kanya….huhhhhhhhhhhhhh…Utang na labas naman, Anak ng jueteng, sakla, bingo naman o…Ang hirap naman pala ng may ka-relasyon…Hayyy…But wait, you should always choose friends ha, kasi alam mo na merong friend ka daw kunyari pero wag ka, baka sa bandang huli, cya pa ang sisira sa inyong magandang samahan ng love mo….

5. Family- Ito ang pinaka sa lahat, wat if uli d ka naman feel ng family nya? Should you say anything against them? Ang sakit naman nun, d ka daw feel dahil mas maganda ang ex nya kesa syo, or mas pretty at mabait ung past gf ng anak nila…Gosh!!! Ok ka nga sa jowa mo, eh sa parents nya ba ok ka? Asus, yan dapat ang unahin mo, kasi pag d ka feel ng bibyenanin mo, problema mo na un..and pag na-feel mo na d kanila gusto d ba parang bothered ka na at aawayin mo sweetheart mo and you’ll tell him, bakit ba ayaw nila sa akin? Sino ba ung gusto nila, ha? Ah..ah..ah..away na naman yan….nakupo susmaryosep…(ang sakit na ng ulo ko sa away na ito….bakit ba kasi ito pa ang naisip kong topic eh) Pag naman ganito ang sitwasyon, cool lng, ask him/her bakit nga ba di sila pabor syo, kasi alam mo frankly speaking, ang mga magulang natin wala silang gusto para sa mga anak nila, ksi deep inside they feel jealous…oo tama ako, wag mo ako kontahin! Kahit pa mukhang artista ka, hangga’t maari d nila ipapakita na gusto ka nila..kasi isa kang threat sa anak nila, ang alam nila na pag nagustuhan ka ng anak nila, isang araw pupunta na rin kayo sa buhay may-asawa…e di nalayo sa kanila ang knilang mahal na anak…d, b? Life’s like dat men…Pag naman ganito situation nyo, dapat na talagang seryosohin ha, dapat ang effort manggagaling sa guy, suyuin nya ng husto parent’s-in-law nya, alamin nya kung san mahilig at ano ang gustong bagay ng parents ng girl, pag naman girl, naku neng, mag aral aral ka nang magluto para mapaamo mo byenan mo no! Kesehodang mahirapan ka at magkanda paso paso ka pa sa kalan, pwes tiisin mo. Pag ginawa nyo yan, pasasaan ba’t makukuha nyo rin ang loob nila….

Ika nga, Life’s a Challenge…then face it, okidoks? Ksi dapat matatag loob natin sa mga ganitong bagay, saka sana lang yung mga makakabasa nito ung nakaka-relate lang ha, I mean, yung presently nsa relationship in order to make them understand wat I’m talkin’ about here. Baka may makabasa kasi na d pa nagkaka-gf or bf, nggeeekkkk…baka ma-traumatize..kasalanan ko pa..or pwede rin khit wala pa experience, basta malawak lang po ang understanding.

Know someone you love, when you’re in a relationship, think of it as your destined love na talaga and always do your best. Never treat it as a toy na once na-break, it always has a replacement…please..lalo na sa mga boys…

You are the architect of your own life. Whatever you do, it always your decision that carries you to what you are right now. Never blame others for what you did. Ok? Till next issue mga peeps...

jealous?

How can I deal with my jealousy??--this has been my problem since pepe and i got together.. and until now, i'm having a hard time getting over it..

i get jealous or suspicious from time to time, but experiencing jealousy on a daily basis is problematic.yeah.whew. When jealousy strikes, i often compare myself to my "imaginary" rival, then i will feel threatened, and sometimes i imagine the worse case scenario - that he might leave me for someone else...crazy as it seems but it's true.. arghhh..i know that not only is jealousy unpleasant to experience, but sometimes i am, who are chronically jealous or suspicious, often misinterpret what is going on - taking what might be an innocent event and thinking about it in the worst way possible.For example, my boyfriend does not immediately respond to my text message or return a phone call,i become a highly jealous individual and would usually will jump to a negative conclusion (like he doesn't love me or he is cheating).i know that jumping to such conclusions can drive me crazy and it often fuels my suspicion more..but what can i do, i just can't help it..my negative thoughts, doubts, and insecurities often lead to more negative thoughts, doubts, and insecurities.i believe that not only do i drive myself crazy, i often drive him crazy as well. he might think that being around a suspicious person like me is difficult to deal with because no one likes to have everything that happens turned into a negative event...hayyy... i know i should learn how to deal with my jealousy to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Typically, the best way to deal with jealousy or suspicion is to talk to him about the issue. When i am suspicious or jealous, i often try to hide my true feelings from him, but ignoring my emotions hardly ever works. when he asks me what's going on with me, i was like "wala!", with a glare expression.So when i do experience jealousy, if i do not talk about it, it comes out through sudden mood changes, acting overly controlling, being overly sensitive and needy, causing unnecessary arguments and fights, pointing out a romantic rival's every flaw, attacking him ("why did you do that?"), and so on...haha...funny but it's true.On the other hand, pepe told me that talking to him about being jealous is the best way of dealing with it . As a general rule, when talking about jealousy, it helps to focus on my feelings and not necessarily to my partner's behavior---according to my friend's advice.:) In other words, pepe claimed that i should not blame or attack him because i feel jealous - rather explain how i feel ("hindi ko gusto ang pakiramdam pag nagseselos ako..."). ---that's the one he wanted to hear from me.

epep: "eh bakit di mo sinabi saken para alam ko?? kung di ko pa nakita, di mo sasabihin.."
pepe: "sasabihin ko dapat sa'yo,.kaso nawalan ng pagkakataon na sabihin ko sa'yo.."

hmmmm... suspicion is often fueled by a lack of information. REMEMBER THAT!

don't get me wrong..pepe and i were not on the verge of quarrel or something right now..it just happened from the previous time and i would not want to let it happen again (though i'm such a jealous jerk..hehe) and i also believed that it may happen again soon and i'm hoping that we can resolve it with both of us empty-handed. i wrote this post for the very reason that i want to remind myself (and remind you too) that i should give more importance on dealing with a real problem rather than spending my time worrying about what might be...

i'm so much happy with my life with him at the moment.. and i don't want to ruin this wonderful thing that i've got for such paranoia... :)

my PEPE..:D

It’s not been long enough since when I have known this guy.. merely a year now.. out of which from last 7 months both of us have been pretty close to each other(real close..hehe.)..

I am here just to introduce you to my “PARE”.. who and what actually he is.. I don’t know how far do I “really know” him.. but whatever I know about him is all here..!!:)

“PEPE”… more of a “mama’s boy”.. as generally boys are..!! He’s studying again,to complete a four-year course in BS-IT.

One of those guys who are pretty headstrong (that’s what he believes)..!! So much of jovial kind who speaks utter rubbish through out the day.. You would rarely find him talking sensible enough. Wherever he is, he spreads laughter all around.

People think he is pretty notorious.. always making fun of me (argh!).. but he has that innocence of a kid along with his naughty attitude.

He is indeed quite helpful.. quite caring and believes in leading a disciplined life (but only when on job). but when he is alone with me, he is pretty indisciplined than anyone else in this world. haha.:)

He’s my "pare","my love", "slave","my blaster","my saviour" and sooooooo many moreee nicks.

He’s the reason of my smile. Whenever I see him or whenever my phone beeps and rings (with his number on the display), my heart starts beating at a higher pace and I start feeling so nervous. I haven’t still been able to configure out “why”…??!!

I always dreamt of a “boy” in my life who would possess the following characteristics -

• funny,one with a real sense of humor
  
• One with a superb english accent(haha! i like it when he's talking to me in his "call-center agent" voice tone..)
  
• Quite focused in everything he does(but he lose his focus whenever i look straight to his eyes and....hahaha!SECRET!)
  
• Decisive (unlike me)

I have found all these qualities in him.

I never gave much priority to looks ever.. but then by God’s grace, this “beast of mine” is pretty good-looking as well (I havn’t ever told him that my heart skips a beat whenever I see his snap on my phone).----(another papuri for you, my dear pepe...magpakain ka naman,,):)

In a nutshell, He’s a rare cut diamond with a billion sides to his personality…!!

pepe's 1st starbucks experience. :)

it was late afternoon then, pepe and i were just wandering and leisurely walk at SM mall, getting kinda bored because we have nothing to do and we just want to kill the time. as we walk passed the starbuck's corner, pinipilit ko si pepe na magstarbuck's.. and he just smirked with ignorance and said, "hindi ako sosyal...ayoko mag-starbuck's."
lage ko siyang niyayaya na mag-coffee and tumambay sa starbuck's but then again, i always get a big NO in my face. he keeps on saying that those kind of coffee shops are only for socialites and only RK ( as pepe points out to RK-meaning Rich Kids) could go there.
knowing pepe,he is such a PIG (sorry for the term,love,LOL.) he eats a lot, the same way that i do,and we both love to explore foodstuffs. so i insist him to come with me and try something from starbuck's...which i ended up assuring him that he won't regret it and if it comes to a point that he will not like what we ordered, he will never again go back to that starbuck's again.hahahaha..due to my persistence,he came with me. *at ako ay nagbunyi sa mga pangyayari..si pepe, naisama ko sa loob ng starbuck's..at last! LOL*
as we went inside, we went straight ahead to the counter..then i asked him what he wanted (he's somewhat confused on what foodstuff he should go for.) pepe's like "ikaw na ang bahala..kahit ano.." so i just ordered two choco-coated doughnuts, one slice of oreo cheesecake (my fave), and a cup of espresso. when we are about to pay for it, he was like "ang mahal naman..para isang slice lang at 2 doughnut..) hehehe.. :)
after that,we went to our table, which is positioned near outside,where we have sight those "RK's" na nakatambay sa labas ng starbuck's,socializing,taking a sip of their frap with a cigarette at hand, and their feet up on the bench. pepe asked me, "kelangan ba tlgang nakataas ang paa pag nakatambay sa starbuck's?" and then again, i started laughing again.LOL.
calling his attention, i requested him to stop staring outside and just start to gobble.he took his first bite on the chocolate doughnut, and he was like"masarap siya.."...so i asked him to taste the oreo cheescake, and after that generous bite, he just said, "masarap din siya... parang natutunaw lang sa bibig.." and after that,i never heard another word from him...i just guess that he just loved what he had tried..and i know he will go back for more...haha..:) salamat naman, at hindi na "zombie" ang tingin niya sa starbuck's..hahaha...now, siya na ang nagyayaya pumuntang starbuck's..and he was like "magpa-doughnut ka naman.." LOL.yeah. :)

silver loops of forever. :D

a bit earlier, pepe and i have to see ate lyn at their village entrance road. well, ate lyn is big bear's wife - big bear(carlo) is a good friend of pepe since high school days i guess, and always having fun together by doing all these UFC stuffs like taking each other down and hammer fist (pepe's fave move....LOL!)

so going back to seeing up ate lyn, we're lucky enough not to get caught by the rain as we paced to the bear family's "pussy wagon" (haha..as they call it..) we have to see ate lyn because we have to fit the couples' rings that we just bought from her. so she handed out to us the rings and tried it out.

i removed the old silver ring that i was wearing so i can fit the new one. (that old silver ring was given to me by my ex-boyfriend before and even when we broke up a long time ago, i still manage to wear that ring because i get used to wearing it..) and yes, the ring did fit well.i looked at pepe's ring finger and i can see that his ring also fit well to him...not too loose or not too tight..

"oh ayan, may ring na tayo.." i just said to him.

pepe just smiled, still glancing at his ring finger.

i held the old silver ring to pepe and told him that i'll have to dispose it already...but ate lyn hearing this and she shrugged, "oh?bakit naman?sayang."

"it came from an 'old flame'..an old flame that has been burnt out a long time ago.." i said softly, almost whispering.

then a moment of silence filled the van.i looked at pepe and saw a"pissed-off" expression on his face. "old flame pala ha..." pepe said.

from that, i knew that he somewhat got upset from what i revealed about that ring i always wore. i never intended to hurt his feelings though, but i wanted him to realize that it was my intention to get a new pair of ring so i can already leave everything behind. i tried to make him realize that"my past" has no longer exist in me, and he's the ONLY ONE, that makes me feel happy in my every day life now, and the ONLY MAN i'm in love with..:)

so i'm wearing this silver loop around my ring finger..thinking the only man i care about...and these rings will stand for our love... a shape of circle for loving each other forever..

*** i love you pepe..***

we're SOULMATES :D

pepe and i were together for more than six months now and all i could say is, i have never enjoyed my life before until i met this guy.. which i believed in my heart is my soulmate...i just knew that he's my soulmate...

not when we can't run out of things to say with each other but when we can have the best conversation without speaking a word...

not when our worlds revolve around one another..but when our worlds can turn without each other...

not when i find myself choosing him over my barkada..but when he can be both my bestfriend and my boyfriend..

not when we finish each other's sentences..but when i choose to listen to each word he says..

not when i see him in my dreams...but when we help fulfill each other's dream...

not when we complete each other.. but when we complement each other completeness...

not when i hate the thought of being away from him..but when i love the thought of being with him...

not when he makes me feel better about myself but when he makes me a better person...

not when he's the perfect person but when he's the perfect person for me...

and not when i can't live without him but when i choose to be with him.. :D


LOL...oo na... cheesy na kung cheesy...wala kayo magagawa kung inlab ako! ahahah.. :P

an old poem i made from my old journal.. :D

it was late in the morning and i still can't get myself loosen up today... what the heck?!! the rain is pouring hard outside and i'm alone in this empty house, then my boyfriend's is quite busy with something, he can't even give me a beep on my mobile...i'm so stucked up here..got nothing to do.. got tired of browsing the net, and answering surveys from facebook...

so i was checkin' on this old desk beside the computer and saw this crumpled paper -- which i believed i cut it out from my old journal during my high school days. (i used to own a diary or a journal before and i would usually write something there like poems that i made or just simply jotting down my thoughts about something.) LOL, yeah, call me "hopeless romantic" or too being cheesy doing these, but yeah, it's just me..haha.. :P

so i start skimming on this piece of paper that i found and i really can't help but smile and have this thought to myself and realize how mushy i am (maybe until now!LOL! haha)... it was a love poem...which i can't remember whom i dedicate this one before...and this poem is a about a girl who's falling in love with a guy who is falling for the other girl..and the poem goes like this...

i can't have your heart

staring at you seems a thing i'll never get tired of
me in your arms is what my heart desires
sometimes i wish that you don't exist at all
coz you don't notice me, which in my heart creates a deep hole
and nothing will erase the bitterness and pain
except for your love that i must gain
when i look deep in your eyes, im in a trance
but then again, i don't stand a chance
coz in your eyes, i see the intensity of your love
for this girl whom you've always wanted to have
i guess i better go and forget you
coz when you smiled at her that when i knew
that deep inside, forever i'll be hurt
coz i can never ever, not even for a second,
have your heart.